4 Ways to Stay in Love After Kids
Keeping your marriage strong after kids is not only essential for you, it’s essential for your kids to witness as they grow up. One of the best things you can do for your kids is to put your spouse first and teach them an example of what selfless and life-giving love looks like firsthand. Here are some tips that will help you prepare (or re-calibrate!) for life with kids!
- Don’t keep score. Trust me, you’ll be tempted to keep score and bring up the 10 diapers in a row you changed, but when you get married, you sort of sign up for selfless giving, and that means giving yourself without holding grudges later. Is it easy? No! Is it the right way to love your spouse? Yes!
- Don’t under-estimate the little things. Bringing each other coffee in the morning or throwing the towel in the dryer right before he steps out of the shower so it’s nice and warm are small, yet really BIG ways to show you love them. A lot of times during parenting, the little things are the things that matter the most.
- Don’t compare. Not even in your heart. It’s easy to compare your marriage to the ones you see on social media or what you think is going on with others, but it’s also incredibly destructive. Remember that God gave you your spouse for a reason and He knows exactly what you need to grow as a wife, mom and person. It starts in the heart and spreads to your words, so watch your thoughts and guard your heart before anything else. Your thoughts will run your life.
- Ignore the annoyances and they’ll become less annoying. A lot of times, staying in love means deciding to see the person’s good traits rather than their shortcomings. It’s a conscious decision, though! What you focus on, you start to see more of, so this tip is helpful for anything you want to see improvement on in life. The person you marry will never be perfect, and neither will you. Appreciate the things you love, forget about the things you don’t find so great. You’ll be a lot happier!
What ways do you stay loving and happy in your marriage? Let us know!