Why Life Is A Wedding
Every time I hear about a couple’s story of “how they met,” it’s pretty much guaranteed that I will cry my mascara off. I love love. I attended a beautiful wedding last week, and one of my favorite things about weddings is the fact that it is an event surrounded by faith and love. Everyone is there to support the journey of commitment the couple is about to embark on. You encourage the bride and groom, and you celebrate their happiness alongside them.
Weddings are full of optimism and hope. I think that’s what I love most. This particular couple who were getting married were a doctor and nurse, and they actually met while both treating a terminally sick little girl. Not only was their story inspiring, but it reminded me how much an act of selfless love can change someone’s life.
At this wedding, we didn’t know hardly anyone who was attending. We decided to mingle with new people and get to know our table a bit. Not only was our table filled with lovely people, but everyone was so genuinely engaged in the moment. Everyone was present. I thought to myself, “Man! I wish every day were like this! I love being surrounded by such positive and supportive people!”
And then, I decided that a lot can be learned from weddings.
Firstly, I’m so glad that we decided to go out on a limb and reach out to new people. I think there’s a lot of merit in putting yourself out there and seizing the moment, even though we all know it’s sometimes easier to just stay within a well-known comfort zone. Weddings don’t really let you stay in your comfort zone. You dance to music you wouldn’t usually dance to, and you spend the evening mingling with people you wouldn’t ordinarily meet. But in hindsight, that’s what makes the entire experience so fun.
Secondly, the atmosphere at weddings is something that is good to surround yourself with in real life, too. Treat the people around you with optimism and encouragement. Celebrate their accomplishments and encourage them in a times of uncertainty. Be optimistic about where your loved ones are headed in life, and remind them that keeping faith at the forefront is so important. Be a cheerleader for those around you. Also, surround yourself with people who celebrate life with you. Pursue those who are genuinely happy for you when things go well and who support you when you are down.
Lastly, celebrate the unique journey that you are on and encourage others’ unique paths, even if you don’t understand what it’s like to walk in their shoes. The point is not to understand their path, the point is to encourage and lift them up despite not knowing. Seek to understand before seeking to be understood. That is true compassion for others. We are all so good at being optimistic and supportive at events like weddings, graduations, and birthdays, but it’s a good reminder to try to maintain that mindset in daily life as well.
When you think about it, LIFE is a Wedding: The commitments we make, the people we connect with, the ways in which we celebrate, are all daily promises we make to ourselves about how we want to live life. Every day is a wedding of faith and living out your promises. You get to choose whether to be optimistic or not. But I would encourage you to not be passive: leave your comfort zone, be present and engaged with the people you are with, and dance a little.
“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.” MLK