How My Wedding Helped Me Find My Voice
I can’t believe it. I’m only 2 weeks away from my wedding!!! It’s been a crazy rollercoaster of emotions and there are still SO many details to sort out! Throughout this process, I’ve learned about more than just linen selections, dress styles and catering options. I’ve actually grown through this experience, in a way that I never imagined possible. This wedding helped me conquer my fears. This process helped me find my voice.
I’ve always been a people-pleaser. I hate disappointing people and try my best to avoid confrontations. I’m so worried of offending others that I end up compromising my own feelings. In the beginning stages of wedding planning, I tried to accommodate everyone else. From the date, location, time, theme…I revolved everything around my guests. This was my first mistake. Once I opened the door to the opinions and preferences of others, I found myself drowning in a pool of expectations that I had to fill; a list of conditions I had to meet. I didn’t speak up, though. I didn’t want to offend.
After a few months of hopelessly planning my wedding around my guests, I realized that all of my efforts and concerns were misplaced. The wedding is definitely about my guests. But it’s FOR us. It’s for Seth and I to remember for the rest of our lives. At the end of the day, our preferences mattered. Our opinions were priority. Once I realized that all that really mattered was what made us (the bride and groom) truly happy, I knew things had to change. I began to speak up more and tried my best to articulate my feelings as kindly as possible. If I liked something that others didn’t, I began to stick to my choice instead of desperately seeking their approval. I was always so scared of sharing how I truly felt about things, but I quickly learned that people actually appreciated my newfound expressiveness. When you know what you want, just say it. When someone upsets you or steps on your toes, politely tell them how you feel. When something excites you or interests you, go for it! Don’t wait until an event as monumental as your wedding to discover your inner voice. Today is your day and this is your life.
So, find your voice and use it.